Many people, particularly Nigerian men, often believe they are doing single mothers a favor by marrying them. However, this is a misconception rooted in societal myths that need to be challenged. In reality, 90% of single mothers make excellent wives in the marriage market.
Why Do Women Become Single Mothers?
Women become single mothers for various reasons: some by choice, others due to tragedy (such as widowhood), and some because of mistakes. If you’re attracted to a single mother, it’s important to understand her story before committing emotionally. If her situation is the result of a mistake or a tragedy, she could very well be the best wife you’ll ever have.
Here’s Why Marrying a Single Mother Could Be a Great Decision:
1. Total Submission: Single mothers who have made mistakes often approach marriage with humility. Once they trust that their partner is sincere, they are committed to making the marriage work and correcting past mistakes.
2. Love Her Child First: If you show love and care for her child, she will love and cherish you deeply in return.
3. Fertility is Proven: Having given birth before, there’s an 85% chance she will conceive again without the stress of fertility concerns.
4. Gratitude and Forgiveness: Single mothers often treat their husbands with deep respect, appreciating the sacrifices they make, and are quick to forgive, regardless of the situation.
5. Treat All Children Equally: To avoid fostering jealousy, do not discriminate between her child and any future children you may have together. Budget for them equally and treat them the same.
6. Communication with the Biological Father: If her child’s father is still involved, establish clear boundaries from the outset. Ensure the father has access to the child, but also protect your marriage by defining the limits of his relationship with your wife.
7. Unified Education: To ensure consistency in their upbringing, try to have all the children attend the same school. If the father doesn’t provide financial support, be prepared to shoulder the cost for the child’s education.
8. Less Parenting for Daughters: If the child is a girl, she will likely require less hands-on parenting as girls tend to become more self-sufficient and even assist parents once they are adults or married.
9. Faithfulness: Single mothers are generally more faithful in marriage. They value the trust and sacrifices made by their partner and are less likely to betray that trust.
10. Strong and Capable: Single mothers are superwomen. Having already played the roles of both parents, they are more than capable of taking care of a family, even if tragedy strikes again.
11. Great Lovers: Single mothers know how to keep their partner satisfied in bed, ensuring that the relationship remains strong and preventing outside temptations.
12. God-Fearing and Responsible: Many single mothers are deeply spiritual. The fact that she chose to have and raise her child, rather than opting for an abortion, is a testament to her moral values and respect for life.
By:
Kemebradikumor Sele-Egonbo
Credit: the realnewsmedia.blogspot.com
